Assertive men can be extremely attractive to some women if it’s done properly. Unfortunately, some men have no clue how to be assertive the right way. These men think that telling a woman what to do and handling everything equals to being assertive, which obviously it does not. While many women do like an assertive man, she also likes for said assertive man to be open-minded enough to at least consider her input. She wants you to take charge, but she doesn’t want you to always do it on your own and without any help from her. If you’re an assertive man and have been having trouble with hooking up with women, it could be because you’re way too assertive.
Do You Have All the Answers?
If you think you have all the answers and you want her to know, chances are, you are probably too assertive. No woman is going to find it attractive when you feel that you have all of the answers and won’t even bother listening to what she has to say. Even if you really do feel like you have the answers, don’t automatically tell her the game plan and assume she is going to go with it without a fight. Instead, when the two of you are chatting and you feel like you have the answer to a problem that she may have, ask her what she thinks the best options would be. Listen to her carefully and if none of what she comes up with makes sense, then you should offer your solution. After you offer it, tell her why you think it’s the best solution and how the solution will benefit her, not you. However, you don’t want to just leave it there. Once you’ve finished offering your advice, ask her how she feels about it. This will show her that not only do you have good suggestions. It will also show her that you respect her input.
Does She Try to Get Away from You
If you’ve found that you have been given the wrong number more times than you can count, it may be because you are coming on too strong and that she feels like she needs to escape you and your assertiveness. When you come on too strong, women will sometimes give you what they think you want just to get away from you. This can lead to fake numbers or email addresses.
Another way to tell if you’re coming on too strong and she’s trying to flee is to watch her body language. Believe it or not, you can tell when someone doesn’t want to be around you. She may seem to have her body pointed in the opposite direction or her shoulders may lean as far away from you as possible. She may even avoid making eye contact with you. If you catch her looking around the room while you’re trying to talk to her, she may be trying to figure out an escape. If you notice any of those things, tone down the assertiveness.
Even if she’s seems like she’s into you, try not to be too forward. Sometimes you never can tell who is serious and who is just in the mood for light flirting that doesn’t actually go anywhere. Don’t ruin your chances by being so assertive that you make her afraid of you. Show her that you can take charge, but that you can also be laid back and open-minded as well.